I don't know about anyone else on Facebook, but I see a lot of women posting with the #metoo hashtag and I applaud them. It is brave and vital. I see women commenting on those posts and adding their "#metoo" comments and some even sharing their experiences. I see a few men commenting on the posts, but not many. Most of the men I see commenting are being supportive, which is good, but it's still not a lot of men joining the conversation.
Maybe they feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about it, or overwhelmed and shocked by it, or maybe they feel ashamed, I don't know. Whatever the reason though, it means that the vast majority of men are doing what they've been doing forever, which is nothing. It's not enough to just be "one of the good guys" and remain silent and wait for everyone to stop talking about it again so you can feel comfortable with it swept back under the rug.
Women are bravely sharing traumatic, demeaning, and in some instances life-altering experiences, and you meekly scroll by and can't join in the conversation, to at least offer support? How is this going to end if you don't even acknowledge that it exists? You have friends, wives, girlfriends, sisters; you have mothers for crying out loud. Odds are, the majority of them have been victims of discrimination or harassment or abuse at the hands of men.
You are doing a disservice to the women in your life, and to society in general by remaining silent and letting it continue.
One other thing. I've listened to all your crying over the years about "crazy" and "psycho" ex wives and girlfriends that broke your hearts and wrecked your lives with their erratic and irrational behavior, their jealousy and mistrust, and a hundred other actions you couldn't understand. What do you think was a big contributing factor to how they got that way? Why do you think they have trust issues? Why do you think they jump at sudden movements and get a look of terror in their eyes when voices are raised? Why do you think so many women automatically say “I'm sorry” for so many things that don't require an apology?
Maybe they feel awkward or uncomfortable talking about it, or overwhelmed and shocked by it, or maybe they feel ashamed, I don't know. Whatever the reason though, it means that the vast majority of men are doing what they've been doing forever, which is nothing. It's not enough to just be "one of the good guys" and remain silent and wait for everyone to stop talking about it again so you can feel comfortable with it swept back under the rug.
Women are bravely sharing traumatic, demeaning, and in some instances life-altering experiences, and you meekly scroll by and can't join in the conversation, to at least offer support? How is this going to end if you don't even acknowledge that it exists? You have friends, wives, girlfriends, sisters; you have mothers for crying out loud. Odds are, the majority of them have been victims of discrimination or harassment or abuse at the hands of men.
You are doing a disservice to the women in your life, and to society in general by remaining silent and letting it continue.
One other thing. I've listened to all your crying over the years about "crazy" and "psycho" ex wives and girlfriends that broke your hearts and wrecked your lives with their erratic and irrational behavior, their jealousy and mistrust, and a hundred other actions you couldn't understand. What do you think was a big contributing factor to how they got that way? Why do you think they have trust issues? Why do you think they jump at sudden movements and get a look of terror in their eyes when voices are raised? Why do you think so many women automatically say “I'm sorry” for so many things that don't require an apology?
Take notice of how some women subconsciously (or very consciously) get apprehensive when you stand blocking a doorway, or try to hold their arm if you are in a heated discussion with them. You can sometimes feel them tense up if you simply put your arms around them to hug them when they aren't expecting it.
Women have been treated badly in all aspects of society, and traumatized in relationships and by family members, and it's just going to keep on going like that if you ignore what they're saying.
So whine all you want about how women are all bitches and demons, but realize that a lot of them got that way because men have mistreated them. You're going to continue to wonder why your love life sucks, but if you're ignoring women's fight to be treated fairly, and not supporting them, you're part of the reason why no one seems to love you.
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